A PhD crisis

Today I'm going to say a crisis in the mid way of the PhD journey!! due to a life- work balance, I feel like I fail in this lesson. It's about 15 months on my way according to the the study,  I can do a huge progress of my knowledge that I have no scared feeling like the first time any more. I have got a professional confidence, and I can be able to create successfully the self with kind support from my supervisors. 

However,   I can't manage a life balance !!!! since I have been here, my home,  during the COVID- 19 out break. I have argument with my husband and my mom every single day and almost topics. 

for my husband, as a couple- relationship, I can deal with him to walk to the further steps together easily because he always admit to who I am. May be we share the similar characteristics like the base of thoughts, it is therefore that it just a tiny gaps between us, and it's not too difficult to fix all different views. 

But a big problem is the argument with my mom!!!!. as I have been talking  previously every issue, and every day seems to be trublesome. I'm trying to identify a root cause for this. Yet, it can be seen confusig  lke a spider net. The big thing that I can see is that "the dark side of my higher self confidence"   I feel like my idea is the best!!! I know best!!! as you can see !!! the obvious evividence is my interesting experinces!! 

This leads me to...... to be seen as a huge changing person.  I feel unhappy...absolutely my mom also feels like me and I do concern about her emotions, but... but these are the truth, this is the real world Mom!! you have to change yourself, we have to catch up the chaning world. >>>> this is a sick thought of mine!!! It seems to be I want to change the world to orbit around me rather I have to accept the world and go long with it happily as i used to be.>>> this is the problem!!!

Today I ask her to take a short holliday by staying with my brother and my sister, in another province and please lettig me staying alone for a while>> luckily, I will be fixed the thoughts to acheive better situations . Absolutely, the reflection from my mom is that she complints about this as the break- up relationship between a couple. She looks sad to beasked to do so and I also have sympathy with her, bot it is the best choice right now. In my point, if ww are tired  from a football game, we just take a short break by walking out from the feild and thinking about things that we have been done and thinking about what else that we need to do next. Indeed, this idea bases on the modern psychology of thoughts, but it doesn't work with my mom whose living with a really traditional entire of her life. Whenever you have read till this sentence, you can relize that this is one of all arguments we have, yes! it is an example!!!!

I’ve got so many thoughts going on in my head. The abovementioned muddling is complicated to be solved, and, unfortnately, I just can’t handle it for now. I can't express that how much it wastes my fuel. Perhaps time can cure me..........

Dan's fairy tale

วันนี้เป็นคิวของน้องแดนที่จะต้องเล่านิทานก่อนนอนให้้แม่กับพี่ดินฟัง โดยน้องแดนไม่มีท่าทางอิดออดแม้แต่น้อยเขาเริ่มต้นเล่าในทันที

กาลครั้งหนึ่งนานมาแล้ว มีลูกหมาป่าตัวหนึ่ง ตัวสีเทา ลูกหมาป่าตัวนี้มันกินแม่ของมันแต่ไม่กินพ่อของมัน มันกินแต่แม่ตัวเดียว

แม่: ทำไมมันกินแม่มันหรอครับ? แล้วทำไมมันไม่กินพ่อของมันด้วยล่ะ?

แดน: เพราะพ่อของมันเสียบปลั๊กน้ำให้มัน

ส่วนแม่ของมันไม่เสียบปลั๊กน้ำให้มันและไม่ให้มันดูโทรศัพท์

(เนื่องจากไดปั่นน้ำที่บ้านมัน  Disfunction ทุกครั้งที่มีการใช้น้ำเราจะต้องเสียบปลั๊กไฟ หากใครเข้าไปในห้องน้ำก่อนเสียบปลั๊กจะต้องได้ยินเสียงตะโกนบอกคนข้างนอกให้ช่วยเสียบปลั๊กน้ำให้)

แม่: แต่แม่ของมันชงนมให้มันกินนะคะ

แดน: พ่อมันต่างหากล่ะพี่ชงนมให้มันกิน

แม่ใช้มือทั้งสองโอบแดนเข้ามากอดเบาๆ

แม่: แม่ว่า แม่ของลูกหมาป่าตัวนั้นต้องเสียใจมากๆเลย ลูกรู้ไหมทีแม่มันไม่ให้ลูกดูโทรศัพท์นานๆเพราะมันรักลูกของมันมาก มันกลัวว่าดวงตาลูกของมันจะบอดจากการจ้องจอโทรศัพท์ที่นานเกินไป

แดน: จริงๆแล้วมันมีแม่หมาป่า 2 ตัว ลูกหมาป่าก็รักแม่ของมันมากนะ (ว่าแล้ว ก็ใช้มือน้อยๆทั้งสองข้างมากอดแม่ พร้อมกับซบอกด้วย)

แม่: เงียบ ลองใช้ Silent technique

แดนเห็นแม่เงียบ และอาจะคิดว่าการที่ลูกหมาป่ามีแม่ 2 ตัวคงไม่เมคเซ้นต์ 

แดน: แม่ ..น้องแดน ขอเล่านิทานใหม่นะ จริงๆแล้วลูกหมาป่ามันกินทั้งพ่อทั้งแม่มัน นิทานเรื่องนี้ก็เลยจบ!! 

แดน : แม่ น้องแดนออกไปกินน้ำกับพ่อข้างนอกก่อนนะ

จากนั้นลูกก็เดินออกไปหาพ่อข้างนอกโดยทิ้งคำถามหลายอย่างให้แม่ต้องขบคิดก่อนนอน

Population divided

Hi all, today we will discuss about the divided population….that is important angle to view the current situation in our country and it is interesting to sue this view to draw the worldwide picture in the demographic perspectives.
Demographic transition is the results of the change in the age structure of the country’s population.



The demographic transition. Source: Wikimedia Commons

For now Thailand is in the phase 3.

-          What are its effects?

Typically, the 2 main characteristics are presented in this phase including decline in fertility and mortality rates.

-          How can we decrease those impacts?
it depends on 1) government’s policy consisting of education, health, governance, economy; 2) level of productivity which is divided into
a). productivity of young adults, schooling, employment, practices, and timing.

b). productivity of older adults, tax incentives, health programs, pension, and retirement policies.

-          What are the indicators?

4 indicators used to assess the how much the country’s experiences the impacts of this phenomenon.

1.       Savings   personal saving grow and can be used to stimulate the econ.

2.       Labour supply     more workers are added to the labour force, including more women.

3.       Human capital     with fewer births, parents are able to allocate more resources leading to better education and health outcomes.

Economic growth     GPD is one of indicator due to the “dependency ratio”

             I will translate into Thai   if  I have more time......
Bye for now ...

                                                                                        DRIN  02032020 @ Lounge, U of Hull

Come across preparing to the elite

Hi Prapasri.....Congratulations to you that you can come across the sin emotional already!!!.

You should thank you all your friends around you that you have been learned a lot from them about how to put your proper position.....good job !!!!. I love myself and proud of myself. You are able to the further step!!! 

To day I read the book that i fall in love it when the main idea is that  how to becoming the elite
1. make place with the fact that you need to remove the rough edges and excess weight from yur life and commit to taking action.
2. identify the unneccessary weitht that you have allowed in your backpact, realised thet you are nt obligated to carry it, and dump it out on the ground.
3. value your time, value your experiences, recognize when others are taking more than therare giving and when it is time to cut loose theextra weight.
4. refuse to be bullied by negativit or undo obligation.



Nomore excuse yourself
1. When you catch yourself making excuses, identify your location on the "inverted U"> Do what it takes to find your optimal performance zone.
2. Consider what opportunities you have allowed to slip though your hand due to unproductive excuses.
3. Embrace your fear. Foutify the areas in which the fear is justified so that you can rest easy.
4. Start looking for ways to gain experience and stop listening to excuses.

Take control of your thoughts
see the graph that describes the self confident range alloowing your optimal performance (confident scale)
1. Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts
2.Put things into perstective....by this it mens that trying to view your obstracles in several angles/ viewpoints. look down at your situation from abird's eye view. . enjoy with people who love you. and taking socialise for a while. 
3. Levity=  learn to humor for your advantage.

4. make big things small.
5. be careful arrogance....be confident, not arrogant
6. Humility
Practicethis techniques much as much possible....be humble thoughts as a habit

The stge of growth (Humble manner) called set brenchmark
1. Crawl; look around the observe, listen to experts, educate your self, buld knowledge base.
2. Walk; put your ideas to the test, learn from your mistakes, refine and find- turn, build confidence.
3. Run; commit and engage, continue learnning, adapt and overcome, build discipline.
don't focus on outcomes of your goals, but focus on the process that is neccessary to acheive your goal and practice using it.

Be self- aware

1. Identify your personality type
2. identify 3 things of your strenths and weaknesses 
3. then identify the most significant gaps and what personality type can close the gaps, ad think about how you can apply this to your personal life as well as your professional team.  
In this concept it mentions about the natural temperamrn comes with specific weaknesses and pitfalls does not neccessaliry mean that you have to be limited by them. you should belive in knowledge is power.......if you are able to identify all of three point as abovementioned, Yes, your are in the right avenue that knowledge can assist you to close all the gaps.

Surround yourself with the right people
1. start connecting, Expand your circle by building genuine relationships. 
2. remenber that being authentic is the pathway to longivity. Play the long game.
3. use your inner people to help you with the 5 whys to see though symptoms and identify problems. 
4. Use the PBA for there experience in solving problems, not for there ability to identify problems.
5. be sure to give much as much you receive, always look for ways to pay it forword.

Persur mentorship
1. think about the lessons that you have had to nearn the hard way anfd whats thos lessons cost you?
2. think about a person who has more experience than you and who believe in your ability. aks them t mentor you. 
3. consider your reasons for becoming a mentor and remember that sharing in someone else's success is one of the most rewarding things that you can do.
4. practice having hard conversations. be gentle but direct. never leave out the positive, becaus it is soften the blow.
5. be thankful to your mentor because he deserves it.


Source; Elite High Performance Lessons and Habits from a Former Navy SEAL

searching personality

My heart and my soul......For now studying PhD is really challenging for me because it not about the 

degree that I need to pursue, but it also includes the exploring my personalities that I have been 

finding for almost the entire time of my whole life.  I also have found some of my ideas that I quite 

wonder in myself. however, in this way, it is the best time to practice many skills in my life. By this 

it means that, i am weight some behaviors and test several theories in human behaviors to be find the 

middle way how state my personal way. it is very worth the cost and I feel very happy to do this.