The phenomenon now is I have seen the posts from some of my participant
1. Suti
her son is 7 months old. On 18/07/2022 I found her post that her son is in a hospital. it looks like he had a head injury due to having a bandage entire his shaved head and raccoon eyes. Yesterday Sutima (Fern) sent a message to me "Hi sister, are you knowing any loan sharks? because I am in financial difficulties. I have no money to buy milk for my son. I am really desperate"
I replied to her: "I don't know any loan sharks"
2. Steam
She sent a message to me to borrow my money on 7 August. The reason was that she has only 100 Bath to live for 2 weeks before the coming up salary. She has no money for food.
I replied to her that I also have no money for her. I am in the UK I must strictly control the spending because it is not our country, I am in danger if no money here. Since then, she has never sent anything to me.
I hope that this soft tone is the best for me to say "no".
3. (case 1)
This girl was the first interviewed. One week later she lend me money 200 Bath on Monday. She said that she will return after receiving the money for her hire on the coming up Wednesday. I transferred to her immediately without asking the reason. by this, it means that I thoroughly thought about I won't get my money back., but I want to test the honesty and responsibility of this girl. I felt sympathized with her due to her difficult situation, and I want to want to give her a hand if I can. the result is until today, I have not never heard anything from her.
4. M (C13)
This participant represents multi- sectors of social problems. Her timeline is not more than expected. at the first talk, she gave birth to a health-conditional baby aged 1 month who has been admitted to the hospital since born. So, this participant views the world in the same way as she was single.
13/9/22 Interviewing
15/9/22 She sent a photo of her baby to me. I replied by sending a heart emoji.
16/9/22 She sent a photo of her baby in a realized hospital. In my experience, I realized that it is a community hospital. this means that her baby gets better from the illness, and it is referred back to the community hospital for recovery and planning to discharge. This photo implies that the participant must 100% of her time staying with her baby. I predict her situation from now on. This might be a life-changing ever for her and change her worldview.
On the same day, she sent messages to me to emotionally drain me about she is tired. she must take responsibility for the baby alone without any help from her husband.
- "It is like I am only with my baby"
- "It is like I have no husband even I have"
- "my spending is from my own money, I have a husband though. I still have a husband for what?"
I am trying to limit my response to her because it is out of my position as a researcher, but as a human, I told her to keep calm.
On 17/9/22 she sent a message to me "we broke up"
I: reply nothing
During 15- 17/9/22, she posted on FB around 2-3 posts/ day to describe her feeling about lacking of support. she is tiring. She is being down. All were posted via satirical Facebook pages.
I still keep silent. I am in the rush to transcribe this case to consult my supervisors on how to do with this situation.
